It's too late... I'm too tired...

Is there a correct response to the one you love telling you their undertaking something that will force you to be separate for months? I've been through 4 long distance relationships, and while only one of them was part of a serious relationship, all 4 suffered or ended as a result. So when I'm told that my boyfriend will be spending next summer away from me, I can't help but feel completely unsettled. It's months away! Almost a year, and yet I still can't escape the fear that history is doomed to repeat.

Gilbert is the most incredible boyfriend I've had. While I no longer can say we've never had a fight, I can still proudly say we have an obnoxiously healthy relationship. Far better off then anything I've experienced before, but even that doesn't make the thought of him going away for the summer any easier. Am I being ridiculous? Probably... But I've never had a long distance relationship turn out to be something good. So as a result I'm scared to death that it will only hurt us.

When you spend significant time apart from someone you're close to, you drift. It happens all the time, whether it's friends or boyfriends. While you're together, you grow together. When you're apart, your paths are different. So even if you're 100% faithful while apart, you're still continually changing into something different from the one you're apart from. Especially when significant life events take place during the time apart...

So yeah... I'd like advice. There's no fix to this solution, it's inevitable now. I just need to figure out how to deal with the stress it's already causing, and to deal with what it will be.

I realize I don't blog enough anymore. This summer was a few steps in the wrong direction for me, so I didn't feel compelled to write. I'll try to be a little better about it now that things are changing up some. I'll write a blog in the next few days with a more positive update. I promise my life is going well right now. I'm just having a sleepless night as a result of this.